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My name is Katie Rössler, and it is my mission to help people have thriving relationships and work on being stronger, healthier versions of themselves. I have worked for over 10 years with individuals, couples, and families in a variety of therapy settings. Now, I am taking my expertise and experience and providing it to you!
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In our relationship, we have some key indicators that things are not going well. Problem is we either don’t know what those signs are or we ignore them.
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There are 4 big warning signs I look for in the couples I see: defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling. These are called the 4 Horsemen by Dr. John and Julia Gottman of the @gottmaninstitute. Most clients have an idea what all of them except contempt is.
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Contempt is when you treat someone like they are below you, like they are less than you and others. It comes out with comments like “No one in their right mind would do that.” “Even our 2 year old could do this but for some reason you can’t.” It also comes out in our tone of voice, which can sometimes come out like parenting our partner. You know the tone I am talking about. We all know this tone of voice.
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So now that you know what contempt is, I want you to watch for it in your relationship. Later I will share how to work on it, but first watch to see if you or your partner shows each other contempt.